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Video: How To Date

How To Date presented by Jerry LaVigne Jr. and Alexandra Villarroel Abrego.

ABC News: Why are 42% of Black Women Not Married?

When I first saw this I said OHHH LAWD HERE WE GO AGAIN!!! The main point of the video was this:

"42% of black women have never been married, that’s doubled that of never married white women There are 1.8 million more black women than black men.

Take the available black men, eliminate those without a high school diploma, those without a job and the number of black men between the ages of 25-34 that are incarcerated that leaves only half of those black men that’s eligible to pop the question. "

I have to agree with that statement from the video because it's a #Fact. But the question I ask is Why do you think your single?

When Dinner & A Movie Gets Old...

It is about that time as we make our plans for the weekend. But what is there to do when dinner and a movie gets old... It's time for us as males to step our game up!!!!! I asked this question on Twitter today: Where would you like your man/date to take you out to? I got several different respones. Some interesting and some I never heard before. As I grew up the female race only wants five things loyalty, respect, good listening skills, great sex and some that is financially responsible. The list goes from what ladies gave then the second is coming from what I think should be done to entertain your date.

Ladies Responses:

Some of female followers said that it was important to keep it simple. Some liked the idea of going to the basketball game. Some even suggested the idea of volunteering at a soup kitchen. Others said dance lessons or the cheaper route cooking dinner with each. I think cooking dinner with your lady is a bounding experience. It's like buying Plan B pills together. Yes shit happens in a relationships.

My Date Ideas:

Some of date ideas are little elaborate. Most are good for the first date but others you can't use again then it won't be as special as the first time you guys did it.

1. Art Galleries: Why not? It is a chance to see where her mind is at. It also gives you a chance to have excellent conversion for the ride/walk home. Plus IT'S SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

2. The zoo: Yes the zoo! It is something different especially if she is the type that likes animals.

3. A shopping trip: It not only shows her that you care. Shit... Ladies take him shopping he needs a new pair shoes as well. Plus you can exactly get an opinion of what you would like to see him in without forcing it on him. DISCLAIMER:Only take your lady/man on a shopping trip if he or she deserves it. Remember this isn't a first date type of date.

4. Exercise together: They say if you exercise more the sex is better.

5. Drive-In Movie Theater: More than likely both of you haven't been to one. Go to google and find one.

I think we can add creativity and originality to that list of what the ladies want. I think you planning the best date in the world would get her wet more than you paying a $150 plus bill. Thats in my opinion and 85% of the time I'm correct.

Suicide by Oc West

So i had written this poem a lil while ago and i jus began to feel it again so im sharing it with my world and faithful readers.

SUICIDE
im so far gone from myself
like the constant memory of you is giving me hell
boys like you make us girls suicidal
and im killin myself in this love i cant get over
Im broken hearted and i dnt feel no more
i cant breath no more cant hear no more
i cant hear myself begging for help from your captivity
let me out!
i dont want to live her no more
locked doors, locked down, locked in and i drown...
in my silent tears that fill up the room
no one to the rescue
Loving boys like you is suicidal
and im dying
slit wrists screaming
closed eyes bleeding
im sick of the grieving
so much about this love
they say you live and u learn
but ive lived and ive crashed and burned.
i know loving aint easy.
please just give me back myself
i signed my name but you didnt stick to the contract
now im killing myself
Day and night im finishing last
cant free my mind of the thoughts of you
and you just dont hear me just dont see me
if you could only see how we aint we
we aint sweet
not livin how life should be
no option left but suicide
so im killing myself in this love for you.

iimjusoc

How Do You Know Your Girl Is Cheating On You?

"Don't think everything is love and love"

Video: The Definition Of A Basic Bitch

Basic BITCH!!!!!!!!!!

Video: Exit Strategy Part 5 "The Handler"

"Why would you feel guilty everybody is doing it, it’s what’s hot in the streets people kill they spouses all the time look at CSI! It’s what’s hot in the streets it’s classic! Did you even feel good saying the word fiance?”

Word to Blogxilla

Just A Few Words From the Heart

Ok so I want my readers to be able to connect with me on all levels. When you read what i write i want you to feel like you know me and you can feel what I'm saying. Ok? Ok, so recently I've experienced the lose of someone very near and dear to me. We all have been though something as such. It not only effected me but alot of people i love. Often when someone passes away you lose touch of yourself and you often get removed from your path in life. That's completely natural but what i realized as the tears flooded my bedroom, is that I am now entitled to live life for him, but we often want to live viciously. I was filled with so much rage as the story was unfolded into my life and i raged in revengeful thoughts, but I again so realized that its not what we were put on earth for. Often in our emotions we do not know how to keep our composure, and we all can attest to it. And when we get to mourning the pain starts to eat away at us but at the same time it sets in that we have to pull forward. The bible says that "he is the resurrection and the light, though he may die, he shall live" and i thought back to that. And i also remembered that the bible says faith is in all things unhoped for. So through all the hard times and tragedy, we must seek into a greater power. Most of us that is God but for some it isn't so i wont be biased. But i say all that to say, when faced with tragedy, you will find FAITH! The first step to removing ones self from mourning is admittance and the knowledge that there is a brighter day. Though hard to accept, you must. It took me over a week to finally get though and it took the support of my family friends and a moment alone in memorial of the life lost to let him know I am living for him positively and alertly to make more of myself in honor of the life i wished he could have had. It is definitely bittersweet, but I am now able to move on.
When in hard times seek into your FAITH, and SMILE
i hope this will help anyone who is going through hard times.
here's a song i like...throwbac joint...maybe ull like it too
iim jus OC!

Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man

Steve Harvey has given us something new. Many of us listen to his ever so popular Morning show, and now we got a book. I admit i hate to ready but i have this feeling that this one is gonna be worth it! Steve harvey always has alot to say and he also have some very inspiring and influential ways. This book is about relationships, at the day and age we are in i feel like it may be a good things seen as though my generation isnt one known for having great interpersonal relationship skills. I think its time we put our minds to another source of media so im jus OC and i approve this Book.

Something I Think You Guys Should Know!

Here are a few things i think personally a guy should know in a relationship

*Touch her face when you kiss her, even if its a small kiss

* Stay on the phone with her even if shes not saying anything.

* When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go

* When she says she's ok dont believe it, that means theres something wrong

* Never cheat on her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you

* Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her

* Call her before you sleep and after you wake up

* Treat her like a person and not something to show off for

* Tease her and let her tease you back.

* When she cant sleep at night stay up with her.

* Watch her favorite movie with her and she'll do the same

* Trust her with male friends

* Let her take your basketball shorts, pajama pants and t shirts.

* When she's bored or sad, hang out with her.

* Let her know she's important.

*Defend her in every situation

Comedy break:::total FOOLISHNESS!

Sometimes people just have to be stopped! Its so many things that you just dont do and this is totally unexceptable! If this was my mother, Id run away from home! TERRIBLE! let the Circus Begin! 7 minutes of total foolerary!I apologize to my SSP viewers. im sooo sorry! but we needed this laugh!
"Im a freak....i like it in the butt"

28 Things To Know About A Man....is this true guys?

I found this on facebook today while i was posed to be "doing homework" LOL...is this how u feel? Give me feedback...Shout out to the author, im not sure exactly who it is tho!

1) stop going through our damn cell phones!!!! You’re gonna end up crying...
2) we are going to look at every single womans ass we see..without exception..we cant help it so dont trip we still like your ass...
3) when a nigga dont answer his phone it doesn’t mean he’s fcuking someone..chances are he is high or with his niggas and doesnt feel like answering all your questions...who u wit?...where u at?...where u goin?...why cant i come?....(side note-most times we dont mind answering the phone but its not cool to be in a car full of niggas and start naming the people you're with while on the phone and its always cool for you to hang with us when the time is right...1 woman with all men fucks up the vibe no matter how cool you are..)
4) there is a difference between a man that cheated and a cheating ass man..most men dont cheat cause it aint that easy to get new pussy..a man that cheated may have made a mistake..a cheating ass man has no consious and doesnt give a fuck and NEVER represents himself as a man in a relationship...its hard to tell the two apart but if you dont you could lose your man...
5) if we jack off doesnt mean we arent attracted to YOU..just means we wanted to jack off..simple as that
6) Give me space, doesn’t mean get away from me. It means don’t sweat me so damn hard....you can stay in my face 24-7 and still give me space..
7) We hate dealing with emotions...if you want us to listen don’t cry, don’t yell and don’t always try to prove a point..we wont hear you at all cause all we want you to do is SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!
8)We want blow jobs all the time...without having to ask...when we have to ask it takes the feel good rate down like 30 points
9) When we get something to eat, dont sit there talking bout "ummmm" while we are in the drive thru..we've been getting the same shit from the same place forever….that shit pisses us off!!!
10) Don’t say you dont care what we do tonight, but shoot down all of our suggestions then don’t offer any input on what you’d like to do..then get all pissed off cause its 10:30, you’re bored at home and Im high playing xbox
11) We dont like to go to your parents house...unless they drink cuss and smoke weed.
12) If we say nothing is wrong don’t ask again...sometimes a nigga just want to shut the fuck up and have a mean face for a while..
13) Dont ask to drive our cars..
14) Dont ask for a key to our house
15)Dont take our white tees every time you come over
16) Buy us shit...we dont like sentimental shit either..clothes, jordans, hats, cd's..if you dont please believe us someone else will..
17) ALWAYS make us feel like the king.....even if you knowbetter..never belittle us, especially in front of people...
18) Laugh at our jokes...the way to make a man happy is for him to know he makes you happy....if he feels he pleases you, you never have anything to worry about...
19) Dont be a push over…we may act like we dont want a strong woman, but what you need and want are two different things...have an opinion...have a back bone...but dont be a BITCH
20) Learn to cook and clean...and enjoy doing it...you’ll find that the more you do it and are cool about it the more the man will want to help you...
21) When we are sick we are big ass babies so take care of us...but everyone else better be a soldier.
22) Dont tell your friends our business….we hate that shit
23) Dont depend on JUST us to make you happy...you will be let down…have your own life too..
24) When we laugh at you or yell at you when you cry its not cause we are mean we just don’t know what to do..
25) NEVER EVER accuse us of cheating unless you are 100% sure..if a man has to constantly defend himself against imaginary shit you make up, you are sure to lose him or suffer in a distrustful dead end relationship....
26) If you're gonna forgive him, do it wholeheartedly
27) Choose your arguments wisely. (max 1 per month)
28) Be patient with him, because you know you don't have it alltogether- he just hasn't figured that out.

Where do I begin? Love...

So the bible says that real love is patient and kind. But in reality, love just doenst wait for long. So patient, i think not. OK so ima touch on some personal issues...so welcome to my world yall.
Now lately Ive been going through some things. I was placed in a situation where i had to give up somebody that I love so very much. Patiently I was involved with this man for about 3yrs. Yall know how that story "i was cool with no commitment WAIT let me take that back it was you so i was with it" (gotta add DC quotes duh!)Some say it was dumb i know, but what girl hasn't been in that situation. He did his thang and I catered to him. I'm not a promiscuous girl at all so I was true to him. Long story short....3yrs went past, he got a girlfriend stating that he chose her because he knew he couldn't be faithful and didn't want to do that to me. I respected it for a while because he definitely wasn't lying! I still received the same treatment as i always had. But after feelings began to grow more and more on both sides and things werent changing...my love began to become less and less patient and not as kind eventually giving up on love all together.
I say all that to ask...how can we stay loyal to love when there are so many different circumstances that lead us astray from what its supposed to be? How can we be kind to situations that we are for lack of a better term "FUCKED UP" (excuse my language) Where do we find strength to love again once we've become so consumed in the lovelessness (is that a word? damn Columbus public school!) Ladies and gentlemen...plz let me kno what it is...im lost!

iiM juS OC

Video: Superkid Preview Ghost Of Pussy Past

This is some funny ass entertaining shit. It is the truth because you do not know what your girl did before you.

Topic Discussions Tuesdays

So I want to start a topic discussion with viewers here on Street Smart Press. And be honest comments are needed on this one.

So talking to my good friend since high school yesterday we started a conversion on Do you think you will ever find the one? and Are you afraid of being alone? (we have deep conversions you might as well call us the not like the other guys crew) He said YES and NO. Because I'm a cool ass dude not like most guys and that there is someone for everyone. Then he said most people find "the one" at 24/25 aka real dating age. You might think you got the one now but in real life you are practicing for your real relationship that comes along later around those ages. So I asked him another question "is it just like my mother saying I am the practice child so she can know how to raise my little brother better". He was like exactly! Because most people our age do not know what they want in life just like we change majors 4/5 times we will change our partners in life even more. Then he made another real ass point the point of college is to find a girl/guy thats on his/her shit and know what he/she wants in life. Then when you hit that real dating age you should know that he/she is the one. Then making jokes so I was like forget the education part and make her make the stacks. YEP!

So readers I ask you Do you think you will ever find the one? and Are you afraid of being alone? Remember comment and opinions are necessary. Look for this every tuesday also.

My Valentine's Day - Manny's Version

Alright so I decided to take everyone's advice 90% being females and blog about something that does not to do with T&A and music. For the first time since the like the 5th grade I actually celebrated Valentine's Day. I am a shy and weird dude. Thats me I cant hate I am weird and neither should you. I am chill, like to stay quiet and stay to myself. Sometimes that is a disadvantage and advantage at the same. Some females like the dude that is loud and 10% of females like the dude that is quiet and sticks to himself. So far out of all the 46 days in this year I have been disappointed when it came to females. Yes, ladies dudes feel you are disappointments also.

So back to my Valentines Day, it was on some last minute type of shit. I did not ask her til real late because she is pretty and I thought she already had one. So texting each other the actually day of I asked her do you have one she said nah. I was like why not because "I don't and why did you wait so late." So fast forward threw all the texts (I have a low quiet after the storm voice so thats why I text alot) I asked (shit what was she going to say no I already I have one). So shawty said YEAH its not to late. We planned things out and I got the "date" every dude wants to sit, order in and watch a movie/slam dunk contest.

So first she goes through the dvd collect and is feeling it and we start talking about cinema not the big blockbusters but movies that actually mean something. I was whoa! That shit it me hard and having a deep convo about the past. Sidebar:Fellas don't bring up past relationships without getting to know the girl at first cause all it does is trigger something and she basically thinks you are going to do something that her past dude did.

So talking and getting to know each other talking about what regular people would talk about, it I felt weird in a way. I was just sitting there and actually listening to her talk and not the usually UHH UHH and FORREAL. I was engaged in the conversion. And sometime from eating and watching Wall-E (dope movie by the way). She asked me about the past relationships and I answered I have been disappointed before. Awkward silence hit us. To cure that silence she started asking me about sports. So I explained the whole All-Star weekend to her.

So to end it night instead of just leaving her at the front desk in my dorm room I walked her to her car. And I heard some nice words after the hug "Let's do this again sometime". To be honest when I was with her I was not thristy at all I was chill laid back which is me I was instead trying to act like my friends I acted like IMMANUEL would act. I am not saying I am going to marry her but I am saying is that I had a overall good time with a female. And hopefully me and her will continue this relationship and step out the friend zone.

SIDEBAR: My mother told me this and keeps reminding me this. A girl does not have to be the prettiest girl in the world to be attractive. Finding a 8,9, or a 10 in both categories of down to earth and being pretty you have to go to mars. But if a girl is 6 or a 7 and then when you get to know her she becomes a 10 that some real shit right there. It is visa versa also with males also ladies. And if you like her/him that is all that matters fuck what your friends say.

How To Be A Good Boyfriend

I saw this awhile back on Fly Chronicles and I liked. The articles give good advice on how to progress your relationship.

1. He Listens

Every man thinks he knows how to be a great listener. But such an assertion is perhaps more off base than R. Kelly’s belief that 14 is the new 21. A great listener does more than just quietly sit by while his woman pours her heart out. Instead, he actively participates in the conversation by asking questions, and showing a genuine interest in the topic. You know what this says? It says that he cares and finds her interesting—which are two things that most women consider important.

2. He Pays Attention to the Little Things

From noticing that she got her hair done, to pointing out the fact that she’s dropped a few pounds, nothing screams great boyfriend like a man who automatically notices the little things. It shows that he’s paying attention, and is in tune to what’s going on in her life. By exhibiting such a positive trait, his girlfriend will wind up loving him more than Diddy loves …well, Diddy.

3. He Trusts Her

A great boyfriend realizes that no woman wants to be suffocated due to a lack of trust. Once he provides her with ample space to live her life, and ceases to interrogate her about as often as I question Blanket actually being Michael Jackson’s child, then she’ll begin to realize that she’s uncovered a valuable commodity. A trusting man.

4. He Challenges Her To Better Herself

A great boyfriend strives to inspire his girlfriend. By taking on the role of number #1 cheerleader, he pushes her to accomplish things that might have otherwise fallen by the wayside. Perhaps she always wanted to write a book, or maybe she had dreams of one day owning her own Pizza Hut (hey, it happens.) No matter the desire, the boyfriend faithfully stands by her side as the chief supporter in her pursuit of greatness.

5. He Makes Her Feel Appreciated Daily

The most impressive trait of a great boyfriend is his ability to display his appreciation daily. It could be something as small as remarking on her how beautiful she is, or as simple as expressing his gratitude that she bought Fruity Pebbles instead of Apple Jacks this time around. Whatever the case may be, he never takes her for granted and certainly never misses an opportunity to make her feel special.

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